Walls Are Not There to Keep Us Out


People say things are “too hard” to accomplish. You know what? They’re absolutely right. It is too hard to do…for them. But not you. It’s not too hard for you because you want it more than they do. You care about your dream more than they do.

The brick walls are there for a reason. The brick walls are not there to keep us out; the brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something. The brick walls are there to stop the people who don’t want it badly enough. They are there to stop the other people!

-Randy Pausch

I love this quote. Often when chasing a lofty goal you can hit a point of exhaustion. That, or you can hit a point of rejection that gets you questioning if it’s worth trying. It’s just too hard…and it is too hard. It’s too hard if you’re not investing and if you don’t want it badly enough.

However, merely wanting something isn’t good enough. Sheer desire andCandles wishing isn’t the whole battle. The truest demonstration of wanting or desiring is action. Are you putting in the hours? Are you being bold and sticking your neck out there despite potential mockery or rejection?

While this post may be coming off as another one of those feel good motivational chats, I don’t entirely mean it that way. I think it’s healthy for us to ask ourselves every so often when pursuing goals how far we’re willing to go an how serious we really are about making change in the world and making things happen.

Everyone wants the world to be a better place. A whole lot of people want to achieve greatness.  How many are putting their shoulder to the wheel and willing to make it happen? Which camp do you fall in?


How to Unfriend, Unfollow and Not Make Enemies


Recently, I got myself in a bind and needed a hand. Like many people do, I turned to social media to find a friendBlog-Facebook in the area that could help me out…that was when I realized, yeah I knew people in the area…I know a lot of people in a lot of areas, but I didn’t know them well enough to be comfortable asking them directly for help.

So why am I still friends with them on Facebook?

Ah, big question…that’s why we have…

The Rules of Unfriending/Unfollowing

Blog-Twitter1. Figure out what you’re using social media for. For me, I decided I like to keep Facebook to people I’ve met in real life that I could hold a conversation with if I ran into them. Twitter and Instagram I use more for networking to meet new people and interact with the writing community.

It’s important to define this so you know both what information you want to put out to your “audience” and what people you want to allow to populate your feed. Once you know what you’d like in your feed unfollowing/unfriending gets easy.
2. If for personal use, eliminate people you don’t like, can’t remember how you met, or don’t know. Who doesn’t spend more time than they’d like on social media? Well…one way to cut down on the amount of scrolling through your feed is to cut down on people filling it. Don’t be a creeper…if you’ve got no clue who that person is unfollow! Blog-Instagram

3. Do not announce you’re unfriending people. This is probably my biggest social media pet peeve. What? Am I supposed to be honored that I’m still on your friend list? I don’t need to know you’re cutting friends and odds are I’m not going to care if you’re going to unfriend or unfollow me. Just do it. Don’t make a show of it. Quietly, unassumingly and without flouting your so-call popularity…unfollow.

What rules would you add for unfriending or unfollowing? Or what about social media rules in general? What big social media pet peeves do you have to share with the class? I want to hear ’em!

Constraint Breeds Creativity


I’ve been reflecting on a phrase oft repeated in the creative writing world, constraint is what breeds creativity.

I think a lot of people get this hippy-dippy idea that creativity comes when one is faced with loads of free time to slowly sip your coffee, enjoy a warm muffin and sit in a quiet, relaxing environment with no interruptions, no obligations, and a full day to spend immersed in the art of painting, writing, composing, etc.

Now, before I proceed to crush these notions, let me first say that hey, who doesn’t want to enjoy a nice day immersed in art and enjoying warm muffins? Go for it. Those can be refreshing moments.

There you go, a relaxing moment for you. NOW GET WRITING!

Just don’t expect anything truly creative, or really any good, to come out of  it.

Creativity doesn’t come from comfortable, obligation-free living or from other’s “understanding” you. These are just lame excuses wanna-be writers make for themselves when they are unsuccessful in a goal.

What makes good writing is the stress, the time crunch…it’s the chase of finding that idea and sweating to develop it. It’s what makes NaNoWriMo so great. You’ve got the constraint…a novel, written in a mere 30 days. Brilliant!

Don’t wait for the perfect circumstances to write. Don’t sit around expecting writing to feel good, or for the inspiration to just “come to you”. Take breaks as needed. Have some R and R time, but if you really care about your craft and your goals, you’re going spend a lot of time with your head against wall trying to bang ideas out of it.

That’s my plan anyway. Make. It. Happen. I write every day now. Sometimes only a little. Sometimes it’s a lot. The habit is growing though. My creativity is coming back. This recovering Finance major is going to write an awesome little book.